Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment…’dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love — which is to transform us.’ Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling. — bell hooks (via queerfatfemme)
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I feel silly explaining it. most recent one out of nine, the only one that’s not going to receive any colors, it’s plain but I love it.
My bestfriend and I have been talking about getting something together… one day we went for it and that’s what came out.
Alright. I’ve been seeing A LOT about the woman who was beat up in a McDonald’s in Baltimore. I’m sure you all have, too. There is a lot of controversy surrounding the incident because the victim, Chrissy, is transgender. Queer media sources are doing everything they can to publicize this awful incident as a hate crime. All of the articles I’ve read make it sound like she was beaten because of her gender expression. They all describe her as a trans woman, and not just a woman.
But have any of you seen the interview with Chrissy? She says that the girls attacked her because they thought she was trying to “talk to” one of their boyfriends. Not because she was trying to use the women’s restroom, like the articles say. She says that she did try to use the restroom but they wanted her to buy something first. Chrissy expresses disappointment that her gender identity is being dragged into the situation at all. She does not seem to think it was a hate crime influenced by her being transgender. However, the employee who recorded the crime did make a transphobic remark after the incident. None of the attackers did, to my knowledge.
A lot of people are really upset that the people working on the case are saying there’s not enough evidence for it to be considered a hate crime. But is it still a hate crime if they didn’t know she was trans, or is it just the media - and queer communities - refusing to see her as a woman, and only as a transgender person?
(Video interview below)
I’m not that interested in politics at the moment, but I thought this may be of interest to people I’m friends with who are following this case.
MORE TOPLESS TUESDAY
EXCEPT IT’S NOT TUESDAY ANYMORE IN AUSTRALIA (BUT IT DOESN’T MATTER)
This photo is titled, “That time I forgot how to wear neckties.”
What we found was that in G-rated movies, for every one female character, there were three male characters. If it was a group scene, it would change to five to one, male to female.
Of the female characters that existed, the majority are highly stereotyped and/or hypersexualized. To me, the most disturbing thing was that the female characters in G-rated movies wear the same amount of sexually revealing clothing as the female characters in R-rated movies.
And then we looked at aspirations and occupations and things like that. Pretty much the only aspiration for female characters was finding romance, whereas there are practically no male characters whose ultimate goal is finding romance. The No. 1 occupation was royalty. Nice gig, if you can get it. And we found that the majority of female characters in animated movies have a body type that can’t exist in real life. So, the question you can think of from all this is: What message are we sending to kids? —
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I will forever love her for “The Long Kiss Goodnight”. Rock on, Geena.
Tell me again who thinks women and men are equal in America?
I know this is true, but in interests of promoting some cartoons/G movies where girls do something other than find romance, for parents and aunts/uncles/cousins/babysitters who need good kids media, I have some suggestions.
Monsters VS Aliens (age 8-12) - Ginormica/Susan is the main character and she learns to reject her romantic story in favour of a story where she gets to kick arse.
The Tinkerbelle movies (age 3-7) - Romance isn’t a plot line at all, and Tinkerbelle’s primary concern is her career as a mechanic/tinker fairy.
The Road to El Dorado (age 12-16) - This movie is actually problematic in a lot of ways, particularly because it focuses on two men, and Chel is involved in a romantic subplot and is sexily/revealingly dressed. However, I hesitate to leave Chel out because I found her WONDERFUL when I was 16, and she’s also the only female cartoon character I can think of who has actual sexual agency. Something I think is important for teens to see.
My Little Pony Friendship is Magic (age 3-12) - Its cute, has a variety of female archetypes to choose from who are sweet without being super stereotyped and girly, and puts a value on hard work, studying, being a loyal friend, and learning to do what you love.
Ella Enchanted was ruined by Disney when they made the film, but if you want a book to read aloud to your kids, or something to give to your 8 year old, its a great novel. The heroine breaks the evil spell [SPOILER ALERT] by REFUSING to marry the prince. (Not refusing to kill him like in the movie). Books are easier than films, and anything by Gail Carson-Levine (8-12 yo) is great for kids into princess stories, and also any of the Tamora Pierce novels (12-18) is worth a look.
Ok, the kids media nerd is going to run away now…
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japanese ftm transsexual idol group - girls to men
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OMG LOOK AT ITS EARS
ha, had to reblog when it popped up in my dash.